Today I bring forth an very important subject. That happens to near and dear to my heart. That is "NEIGHBORHOOD BULLYING". Bullying of all types are on the rise now, especially in our schools. But, you rarely hear of neighborhood bullying. My children are currently being bullied in our neighborhood. Immediately after I am done with this post my husband and I will be going to the police station to make our 3 rd police report , on children from the neighborhood in which we live. harassing my boys.
From there I plan to spend the entire day, two days, week, weeks, month or months researching this disgusting behavior to bring forth more awareness in neighborhood bullying, I will not take this lying down. I plan to use every breath in my body , until I am heard. It seems some adults think that this is common children like behavior...I am hear to tell "IT'S NOT". These are my children, they are not action figures, they have feelings, and have the right to feel safe in there own neighborhood. They have the right to feel relaxed and free as they play outdoors , just as children should feel.
My husband and I have been to many childrens homes to speak to the parents, in most cases the parents will instruct them to no longer behave in that manor. These children don't even honor their parents wishes. And continue to do as they please...which is to harass my boys.
My boys were jumped a month or so ago, by 5 ...you heard me 5 other thugs ( yeap, that's what I called them.....common THUGS). My boys are the ages of 12, and 9. Right here at our neighborhood " quote un quote "PLAYGROUND". These thugs had the nerve to hold my 9 yr old back while the other 5 jump my 12 yr old, they then stole one of his sneakers, in which I sent him out with two, along with his watch. But, I must say My 12 yr old fought back, with every bone in his body.
This post is not to boast about how well behaved , smart and mannerable my children are.....But, damn it they are... that plus more. I am raising men, not punks. My boys are the type of boys who will run across the street to help our older neighbors with their bags, and will politely refuse anything offered to them in return for helping. They will politely say " We just wanted to help" . You can see my boys ( not only my boys all of my 5 children girls included) on any given day picking up trash off of our front lawn, with out being told. When they take in our trash cans on trash day, they also take in our neighbors " just because". You will never hear them curse, wear their pants belong their butt, or see them grabbing their crotch as they talk . This is how they are being raised...to be men.... not punks.
My husband and I have since put them into boxing, ( including my 11 yr old daughter) , there they are learning discipline, restraint, more respect, and confidence in knowing they are NOT push overs...."WHAT SO EVER". And they love it! ( they will not however be taking this boking thing to far, just now its doing just what they need, confidence. They will not become pro's , just a little something for now)
Now, my husband and I have informed them they "MUST" defend themselves when at all necessary. But only when necessary, like if someone puts their hands on you. However the bullying in our neighbor hood has gotten totally out of control. One little thug had the nerve to tell my son he was going to put him into a coma, another time we came home and a kid ( I believe it was a kid because of its handwriting) came up to our pourch while we was not home and wrote " WE HATE YOU". There has been soooooo many incidents, it would take to long to type. My boys are tired of this nonsense now, as my husband and myself and are ready for an all out war. However I've explained to them we will settle this differently. The police will get tired of coming out to my home for complaints, they will do more about it. Because each time it happens I plan to call them out or go to the police station myself.
If your child is being bullied ANYWHERE, but particularly in your neighborhood, please do something about it. I implore you to not ignore it. The more awareness to this problem, the more it will be taken seriously. parents, police, landlords, ( been there too) and neighbors will be forced to realize this is NOT JUST KID BEHAVIOR, THAT THIS IS ONE STEP AWAY FROM CRIMINAL BEHAVIOR.
FACTS ABOUT BULLYING
What Is Bullying?
Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior that is intentional, hurtful, (physical and psychological), and/or threatening and persistent (repeated). There is an imbalance of strength (power and dominance). The above definition includes the following criteria that will help you determine if a student is being bullied.
What Does Bullying Look Like?
•Hitting, slapping, elbowing, shouldering (slamming someone with your shoulder)
•Shoving in a hurtful or embarrassing way
•Taking, stealing, damaging or defacing belongings or other property
Verbal Bullying : •Name-calling •Insulting remarks and put-downs •Repeated teasing •Racist remarks or other harassment •Threats and intimidation
When and where does bulling occur:
In the United States, it increases for boys and girls during late elementary years, peaks during the middle school years, and decreases in high school.
Physical severity may decrease with age.
It is most likely to occur where there is no adult supervision, inadequate adult supervision, poor supervision, a lack of structure, and few or no anti-bullying rules; it is also more likely to occur where teachers and students accept bullying or are indifferent to it.
It occurs virtually everywhere: in homes, nursery schools, preschools, elementary schools, middle schools, high schools, neighborhoods, churches, city parks, on the trip to and from school, on the streets, and in the workplace, for example. It occurs in large cities and small towns, large schools and small schools—and even one-room schools in other countries.
DID YOU KNOW:
3.7 million youth engage in bullying each year
3.2 million youth are victims of moderate or serious bullying each year
Bullying has been declared a violation of civil rights in some cases
160,000 students per day stay home from school because of bullying
Bullying creates a fearful environment that impacts learning.Approximately 14% of 8th through 12th graders and 22% of 4th through 8th graders surveyed reported that bullying diminished their ability to learn in school;
Bullying causes children to runaway
Bullying causes eating disorders
Bullying causes low self-esteem
Bullies grow up and often abuse their spouse, children and co-workers.
So, as you can see ladies as you can see bullying is very...very...very serious. I plan to make and pass out fliers in our neighborhoods in hopes of spreading awareness on neighborhood bullying. In trying to advocate for all of the children like my very own who are being bullied in their neighborhood.
Some may think, perhaps you should move. My husband and I have considered it. But, to be very honest I like it here its just the " children like thugs". The neighborhood is lovely, beautiful , well kept...just overall a very nice area. If in fact my husband and I decide to relocate, it will not be before I bring awareness to this problem , in hopes of helping the family who may move into my place.
Please...please...please spread the word. And, if you see any child being bullied in your neighborhood, even if its not your own. Please be a voice for that child , step in...help , and do not become a victim yourselves. Because bystanders who do not speak out are just as much a bully or being bullied by the bully.
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